This is brillant work connecting Kegan's developmental curriculum to the broader relational critique. The observation about 86% of men lacking flirting ability while the culture expects mastery really exposes the gap. I've seen this play out in workpalce settings where people are expected to navigate complex social hierarchies withut any formal training. What might be interesting is exploring how solarpunk communities could explicitly design developmental pathways rather than hoping people figure it out.
Thank you, I really appreciate you following my work. I think many of the systems are already in place, they just need to be combined in the right context for an emergent praxis that can round out development.
Things like Circling/Authentic Relating, improv, and speed dating. Speed dating doesn’t even need to be for the purpose of finding a date, but about practicing flirting skills with women who are doing the same. Learning how to subtly sexualize conversations through improvised banter.
Obviously skill transfer from that to in the moment experiences is not complete and may even have some level of detriment. It can definitely be balanced with an ecology of practices. Something like Circling can foster greater empathy throughout the culture so that people are more sensitive, decreasing severity/frequency of faux pas and increasing after-the-fact calibration and forgiveness.
This is brillant work connecting Kegan's developmental curriculum to the broader relational critique. The observation about 86% of men lacking flirting ability while the culture expects mastery really exposes the gap. I've seen this play out in workpalce settings where people are expected to navigate complex social hierarchies withut any formal training. What might be interesting is exploring how solarpunk communities could explicitly design developmental pathways rather than hoping people figure it out.
Thank you, I really appreciate you following my work. I think many of the systems are already in place, they just need to be combined in the right context for an emergent praxis that can round out development.
Things like Circling/Authentic Relating, improv, and speed dating. Speed dating doesn’t even need to be for the purpose of finding a date, but about practicing flirting skills with women who are doing the same. Learning how to subtly sexualize conversations through improvised banter.
Obviously skill transfer from that to in the moment experiences is not complete and may even have some level of detriment. It can definitely be balanced with an ecology of practices. Something like Circling can foster greater empathy throughout the culture so that people are more sensitive, decreasing severity/frequency of faux pas and increasing after-the-fact calibration and forgiveness.